May 2023 Mental Health Awareness Month

Many Samoans have a reluctance to discuss private experience, especially when it happens between parents and children.  As Samoans we are raised to hide or emotions, to comply with being “respectful” to comply with norms of fa’aaloalo.  When our behavior does not meet the moral norms of the aiga, where their conduct reflects badly on the family name, a person can feel intense guilt and shame.  For those who have mental illness, which can create a major barrier for those seeking help and recovery.  Disgrace prevents people from seeking support from their families and prevents families from seeking to aid their loved ones.  Other stressors Samoans face is when there is a breakdown of relationships.  For many Samoans interpersonal conflicts and losses can create extreme stress and emotional distress.  Conflict amongst family members and the ending of relationships can create unsafe spaces, that cause emotional distress.
How you can support someone who may be impacted by mental stress is to help them find the assistance they need.  You can also support them with your words.  Let them know you are there for support by saying, “I may not know exactly how you feel, but I’m here for you.”  Remember not to blame or shame them by telling them it is “their fault”.  Remember that not everyone wears their pain on the outside.  Do not dismiss the pain, just because you don’t think they look depressed, or frazzled.  Some people who need support might hide it or put on a good face.  Remember to just listen. 
Lastly, it is always important if you believe your loved one is at risk for self-harm, please speak up.  You can always call the National Suicide Hotline in American Samoa by dialing 988. It is ok to share concern for your loved ones.    Follow us during the month of May as we share other tools during Mental Health Awareness Month.