written by:  Judy Matautia, Training Coordinator
‘Ae o a au mea na fai i o, ua mafua ai ….’, ‘ia se’i vaai i ou lavalava na fai, leitioa….’, ‘Ia ua leva le afiafi, sa le tatau ona e i ai i se taimi faapena…’, o faaupuga masani nei ua tele ona tatou tu’ua’i fuaina ai i latou ua sauaina, ma ua pei o le mea fua i a’i tatou le talafo o nei faamatalaga.  O se tulaga matuia tele ma e le tatau ona faia, ma e le fesoasoani foi i ai latou ua a’afia i sauaga.  O le tu’ua’i fuaina oi latou nei, faatusa o lea ua tatou toe faapea atu oi latou e mafua uma ai nei faiga faasolitulafono, lea e toe faataunu’uina ia’i latou lava ia.  E le gata la ina sese o nei faiga, ae e taofia ai foi le toatele o i latou ua sauaina mai le faasoa mai i tulaga o le sauaina oi latou, aemaise ai fo’i, o le a’apa mai mo se fesoasoani. 
 
AISEA!  Aisea tatou te tu’ua’i fuaina ai latou ua sauaina?  Atonu o se isi o mafua’aga o le taumafai o le tagata e faamafanafanaina o ia lava ia e ala lea i le taumamao po o le tutu mamao mai e ua sauaina ma le mea ua tupu, po’o le faapea ua mafua le faafitauli lenei ona ua faia e latou nei ua sauaina ni tulaga nei, ae se manu e le tupu lava se mea faapea ia te ia.  O se iai mafua’aga atonu ia aua nei iai se matafaioi e ono feagai ai ma le ua sauaina, po’o le tu’uai’a le ua sauaina, ma tatou te le tau faamafanafana pe fesoasoani fua i ai.  O le toatele o tatou, e le masani ma e le iloa ona feagai ma ni tulaga faapea, ma o se auala faigofie lea tatou te alo i ai.  O se isi mafua’aga e mafua ai le tu’ua’i fuaina o latou ua sauaina ona o tatou talitonuga ma faavae sese ua tatou ta mau ma masani ai, pei na’o tagata leaga e tutupu ai mea leaga, afai e tupu mai se mea leaga i se tagata o lona uiga o ia o se tagata leaga, ona e leai ni mea leaga e tutupu i tagata amiotonu.  O le faailoga lanu, o ni vaivaiga o se tagata, po o nisi tulaga e eseese ai tagata e mafai ona avea ma tulaga e tu’uaina ai i latou ua sauaina, ae galo atoa ai le solitulafono lea na faatinoina e le tagata solitulafono, ae tu’ua’i atoa mea uma i le e le’i solia le tulafono. 
 
FAATUPULAIAINA!  O nisi o tulaga o lo’o faatupulaia ai le tu’ua’i fuaina o i latou ua sauaina e aofia ai tausuaga i faiga faamalosi, faatupu o tala po’o tala fatu i sauaga ma faiga faamalosi, faailoga eseese o itupa, o tatou talitonuga eseese, o tatou tu ma aga masani, o le tatou faavae aemaise o mea ua a’oa’oina ai tatou a’o tatou tuputupu a’e, o le faalumaina o tamaita’i faita’aga po’o le faiamio, ma nisi faiga se tele o lo’o tatou faia.  O le tatou faapea ifo o le mea lava lea na mana’o i ai, ona o le amio, faiga o laei, ma le ituaga olaga o lo’o soifua ai se isi, o nei talitonuga, po o tala fatu, po o faiga sese, o tulaga uma nei e faatupulaia ai sauaga faafeusuaiga.  O nei foi faiga e faamalosia ai le talitonuga a nisi e faapea, e le aia tutusa tagata uma.
 
FAATAITAIGA!  O nisi o faataitaiga o le tu’ua’i fuaina o i latou ua sauaina i sauaga faafeusuaiga e tele ona faapea, sa le tatau ona faia la ituaiga lavalava, sa tatau lava ona matua’i faaeteete, sa le tatau ona inu ma onâ, sa tatau na taumafai malosi e tete’e atu, o le mea lava na nofo ma fai, o le mea lava na mana’o i ai, ae aisea e le alu ese ai.  E tele foi nisi faaupuga o lo’o fai ma o tatou masani le lafo i le tula’i mai o tulaga faapea, ma e tele ona tatou leiloa o lo’o tatou tu’ua’ia i latou nei i o tatou faaupuga ma faamatalaga. 
FAIGA MASANI!  O nisi nei o faiga masani e sasao fa’aafi ai le tu’ua’i fuaina o isi, o le faapea lea ua alaga tatau ona tu’ua’i fuaina.  I le fia malosi e mafai ona faapea ai nisi e mafua ona e maaleale le loto o le tagata ua sauaina, sa tatau e le ua sauaina ona toe tali atu i le tagata fia malosi, pe tatau foi ona ia alofia le tagata fia malosi.  O le fia malosi o se tulaga ogaoga e mafai ona faatoilaloina ai faalogona o le isi tagata, aemaise o lea toesea ai ona faalogona o le faatauaina o ia lava.  O le fia malosi e na’o ona faatupulaia ai ma puipuia ai uiga o le tagata lea e fia malosi, ae le faasa’oina ai ona uiga po’o faiga fia malosi.  E le tatau ona faamalosia se isi ina ia aua nei auai atu i le aoga, pe aua nei tafao ma uo ona o le mata’u i le fia malosi o se isi.  Ae tatau ona faasa’o ma faasala le e fiamalosi. 
O se isi faiga masani e mafua mai i le faapea ifo e matitiva.  E tu’ua’ia i latou e lima vaivai i le faapea ifo e tatau ona tu’u le paie ae su’e se galuega, po’o le faapea ifo ana tu’u le faia o fualaau faasaina ai po’o ua iai se seleni, a leo lena ua faapea o tagata matitiva e ola faamoemoe i le malo.  O le mea moni, o le to’atele o tagata e faalelava le faasoa, e galulue faasoloatoa ma e tele ona le agava’a i nisi o polokalame a le malo e pei o pepa o mea taumafa, ma tupe maua fua, ma e ui ina galulue i le tele o taimi e le lava lava le tupe maua mo pili ma isi mea fai e mo’omia e le aiga.  O nisi o taimi ma nofoaga, ona o le faailoga lanu e taofia ai le toatele o nisi mai le maua o ni avanoa faigaluega.  O le faaaogaina o fualaau faasaina ma le ava malosi o se tulaga matuia tele, ma i nisi o taimi e le mafai ona foia pe taofia le tagolima i nei mea e aunoa ma se togafitiga faalefoma’i, ma o nei togafitiga e taugata tele.  E ui na faalagolago le to’atele i polokalame a le malo lea e fesoasoani mo nisi o aiga, ae le faapea e faatapula’aina na’o aiga lima vaivai.  O tulaga faaletonu i nisi o galuega ua mafua ai i nisi tagata sa totogi lelei o latou galuega ona faamoemoe foi i polokalame ia a le malo, ma e leai se tu’uaina o i latou ia i tulaga ua iai. 
O sauaga faalotoifale o se faiga masani e tele ona tu’ua’ia ai i latou ua sauaina e ala lea i le fesili pe aisea e saga nofo umi ai lava ma le tagata saua, a le’o lena ua faapea e faatiga mafaufau ma mafua ai ona sauaina, po’o le tele fo’i o le faasuaava o le tagata saua.  Ia tatou malamalama, o tagata saua e tele na faitogafiti ma e tele na latou faafefeina i latou o lo’o latou sauaina ma fefe ai le ua sauaina e alu ese mai lea nofoaga ne’i atili sauaina ai o ia.  O sauaga o le filifiliga lea e faia e le tagata saua, ua ia filifili e fai.  E iai nisi auala e mafai ona fofo ai se mataupu pei o le talanoa ae le o le faao’olima, ae afai ua masani ma e mana’o le tagata saua e faatino sauaga, na te faia lava.  Pe tagofia le ava ma ua ona, e le’o se mafua’aga lea e sauaina ai se isi. 
O faiga faamalosi ma sauaga faafeusuaiga ua fai ma masani le tu’ua’ia faapea ua tele le faatosina i ona lavalava sa fai, ua tele le ava malosi ma ona, po’o le tele o le faifai amio po’o le tautalaititi, pe faapea foi sa tatau ona tautala ma faailoa mai.  E tofu tagata uma ma lona aia ma lona faitalia e na te faia ai so’o sona laei e aulelei ai, ma pe itiiti pe tele vaega o le tino e aliali mai i lea laei, e le’o se mafua’aga lea e faia ai ni sauaga i lea tagata.  O le inu ma le ova o le ona e le’o se solitulafono, ae o le faamalosi o se solitulafono matuia.  Po’o a lava mea na tutupu i se tagata i le taimi ua te’a po’o le tuana’i, e le’o se mafua’aga lea e faia ai ni faiga saua po’o ni faiga faamalosi i se tagata, ma o i latou ua a’afia i  sauaga faafeusuaiga, e tele na faapele, faafefe, tau faamata’u e le tagata saua ina ia aua nei pisa ma faailoa mai le mea ua tupu, aemaise lava pe afai na sauaina e se sui o lona lava aiga, se uo, po’o se tagata e iai se mafutaga va lalata ma le aiga o le ua sauaina. 
FAAIUGA!  O nisi faaiuga e ono tula’i mai ona o le tu’ua’i fuaina o e ua sauaina, e faatapula’aina ma faafaigata ai ona ripotia o sauaga e i latou ua sauaina.  A iloa e le ua sauaina ua tu’ua’i fuaina ia i le mea na tupu, o lea le toe iai ni lagona o le saogalemu ma e ono le mafai ona talanoa pe faasoa mai.  O le tu’ua’i fuaina o i latou ua sauaina e ono faamautinoa ma faasaoina ai faamatalaga a tagata saua ia e tele na fai faapea o le faapogai o mea uma o le tamaita’i lea, po’o le tagata lea ua ia sauaina, ma e le’o se sese po’o se matafaioi a le ua sauaina, le taumafai ina ia foia se faafitauli aemaise mo le e faia sauaga.  O le tatou auai i faiga ma uiga nei o le tu’ua’i fuaina o i latou ua sauaina, o le tatou faatagaina lea o le tagata saua e faia pea lana amio lea ma faiga faamalosi ma alofia ai le faasa’oina o ana gaioiga faasolitulafono o lo’o faia.    
A’AFIAGA!  A talitonu se tasi o lo’o tu’ua’i fuaina ia pea faailoa mai sauaga, atonu o le a le ripotia maia lea tulaga.  E mafai ona lagona ai le tu toatasi na’o ia o le ua sauaina, ona e tele ona le amanaiaina mataupu faapenei pe faatalanoaina faalaua’itele.  A iai se mea e le ripotia, e itiiti pe leai foi se avanoa e ono faia ai ni suiga. O se isi a’afiaga e ono tula’i mai, a le faasalaina tagata e faia sauaga e tusa ai ma aga soligatulafono, e faaauauina pea nei faiga saua.  A tupu loa tulaga faapea, o lea fai ma masani le saua aemaise o faiga faamalosi, ma o’o atu ai i se tulaga o lea fai ai mea ula pe ulagia fo’i.  A tu’ua’i fuaina se tagata ua sauaina, e le’o faamalosia le tagata saua e tu’u le saua, ma e avea lea ma mea e faaauau ai pea seia avea ma faiga masani. 
A’AFIAGA FAALUA!  O le faamalosi, e pau lea o le solitulafono e taumafai ai le ua sauaina i sauaga faafeusuaiga ina ia faamaonia lona mama.   O le tu’ua’i fuaina o le ua sauaina, e mafai ona a’afia ai i le tulaga o le a’afiaga faalua.  O le a’afiaga faalua o le toe tu’ua’i fuaina lea o le ua sauaina e latou ia e galulue mo le auaunaga po’o le fesoasoani fo’i ia’i latou ua sauaina.  O amioga nei e faaosofia ai lagona faanoanoa ma le mafatia o le ua sauaina, ao lea e toe faia lava e tagata nei o le latou matafaioi po’o le latou galuega le fesoasoani i tagata ua sauaina. 
 
TAOFIA!  E tele ni auala, peitai o nisi nei o auala e mafai ona tatou fesoasoani e taofia ai nei faiga o le tu’ua’i fuaina o i latou ua sauaina.  E mafai ona tatou lagolagoina i latou e ala i le tatou faamautinoa ma faailoa atu i e ua sauaina e le’o ia e sese, ma o sauaga o se filifiliga lea a le tagata saua, ma ua na’o ia e sese i taimi uma e faia ai sauaga.  Ia tatou iloa e sili atu ona malamalama le ua sauaina i le tulaga o lo’o tupu ia te ia, ae tatau ona tatou lagolagoina o ia.  Ia tatou faalogo lelei i tagata pea talanoa mai e faatatau i sauaga ma tatou ofoina atu se fesoasoani pe saili foi se fesoasoani mo i latou ma ia tatou taumafai tatou te faatasi ma le ua sauaina a’o feagai ai ma mafatiaga.  Ia alofia le tu’ua’i fuaina o i latou ua sauaina i faasalalauga eseese, ma taumafai ina ia suia o tatou upu ma faamatalaga, suia nei le fesili o le ‘aisea e saga nofo umi ai pea ma le tagata saua?’ i le ‘aisea e faasaua ai lea tagata’.  Ia suia tatou faamatalaga ma le tatou gagana. 
O se isi vaega tele e mafai ona tatou fesoasoani ai i le taofia o le tu’ua’i fuaina o i latou ua sauaina, o le tu’ua’ia lea o i latou o lo’o solitulafono e ala i le tatou faasa’o o faamatalaga pea tatou faalogo i ai, lea e tu’ua’i fuaina ai latou ua sauaina, ae le na’o le tu’u ai pea e faia nei faamatalaga sese.  Ia faamasani ona tatou tautatala e tete’e atu i faamatalaga e tu’ua’i fuaina ai se tagata ua sauaina.  Aua ne’i talitonuina faamatalaga a le tagata saua i le mafua’aga e ala ai ona faasaua, aua ne’i taumafai fo’i e tauamiotonuina ana taga, ae ia tu’ua’ia le faasaua i ana soligatulafono; aua nei tu’uina iai se avanoa e faia ai ni alofaga e tu’ua’ia ai le ua ia sauaina , pe tu’ua’i i le ava po’o fualaau faasaina, ia tu’ua’ia lava le faasaua ae leo le na te sauaina. 
I se aotelega o lenei mataupu o le tu’ua’i fuaina o i latou ua sauaina, e tulai mai i tulaga eseese ma atonu o se auala e faigofie mo nisi ua sauaina nisi, peita’i e le’o le tali sa’o ma le moni lea. E leai lava se taimi e sese ai pe tu’ua’ina ai le ua sauaina ma e le tatau foi ona faia pei se tagata solitulafono.  O le iai o le tatou malamalama ma le silafia i le tulaga lenei ma pe aisea ua ta’atele ai, aemaise o le a’afiaga o i latou ua sauaina, e mafai ai ona tatou puipuia ma taofia lea tulaga mai le faatupulaia aemaise o le faaauauina.  A sasa le tamaititi ona faapea lea o le matua, e mafua ona sasa ona o le faalogo gata ma fai se aoaiga, ae a faamalosi se tama’ita’i o lea se tala e fai e agatonuina ai lea faiga?  Ua lavea Foaga e lei fai misa, ua sauaina e aunoa ma se alaga tatau, ma e leai lava se alaga tatau!  Taofi loa sauaga faafeusuaiga, taofi le tu’ua’i fuaina oi latou ua sauaina.

Written by:  Jennifer F Tofaeono, Ex Director, Alliance
Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) 2022 the Alliance encourages our community to develop resilience skills as a response to traumatic experiences, like sexual assault.  The definition of resilience is the ability to recover quickly from complications, or complicated situations.  Sexual assault victims experiences are often traumatic and can cause years of pain.  This can have profound impact on how they engage with others.  It’s important that we remember assault on any level is emotionally charged, distressing and terrifying for victims and their families. Resilience is an important part to healing, and for some victims regaining control of their lives. 
When developing resiliency skills families can encourage each other to address life’s challenges in a positive manner.  By developing positive reactions to life stresses victims begin to become stronger.  It is important to use these skills daily, and not just during difficult situations.  All families can do with little bit of support, as it is necessary to maintain and improve the health and wellbeing of the family.  Focusing on eliminating periods of stress is why we need resilience. 
Resilience activities you can use: (1) Reframe your interpretations, remind yourself that you can choose to focus on the positive of every situation. Each morning leave yourself a reminder to remain positive.  To be positive use post it notes to write mantras such as “Keep looking up”, “Positivity wins!”, or “Do good and good will come to you”.  (2) Search for the positivity that surrounds us.  Rather than search for negative information about people, places, or things, look for good news stories to boost your spirit. Limit or eliminate your time on social media.  (3)  Do an act of kindness, and remember positivity exists, sometimes we need to find it.   (4) You must take care of yourself because it’s hard to be positive when you’re tired when you have nothing else to give.  You can take a walk, meditate, or spend time with a friend who makes you laugh.  Reading a good book, or watching a movie that makes you feel calm, or brings a smile to your soul are activities of resilience. 
The success of resiliency is all up to you, and the needs you identify.  You determine what resilience looks like.  Record what works best for you, and practice it, because practice makes perfect!  The journey to wellness and healing can be a long road but remember you do not have to do it alone.  

 Written by:  Jennifer Tofaeono, Ex Director, Alliance
   Traveling off island has become a laborious process. Unfortunately, for victims of domestic violence who chose to leave their abusers, leaving the island adds another layer of difficulty. Victims who feel unsafe as abusers begin to increase their acts of intimidation and violence, have no other decision but to travel off island to relocate.
Vanessa had separated from her husband 6 months earlier with her children.  She had obtained a court protection order (CPO), requiring her abuser to stay away and have no contact with a Protected Person.  Like many other victims, Vanessa’s husband continued to harass and intimidate her.  She reported he would still come to the home.  Initially he would stay outside, but his visits were becoming more frequent.  He would yell profanities, banging on the door while she and her children remained locked inside.  She would call the police and they would remind the perpetrator of the CPO, requiring that he leave the premises.  By the time Vanessa walked into my office, her abuser had broken into her home again, but this time he had a weapon. She was frightened for her life, as well as her children’s, and felt the best decision was to leave American Samoa. 
     There are countless stories where women face huge barriers leaving an abuser.  Many abusers control the finances and women have limited financial assistance when it is time to leave an extremely violent situation.   Other women, like Vanessa, have traveled long distances to escape their abusers, moving to different locations.  Starting May 2022, the Alliance is offering the program, “Malaga mo Sulufaiga” funded by Family Violence Prevention Services Act (FVPSA) American Rescue Plan (ARP) for victims of domestic violence who need assistance for relocation.  The program will offer victim assistance travel funds based on need.   Follow us as we provide more information or contact our office media@asadsv.com.  
Photo: The Alliance does not own the photo, and we do not take credit for the image used.   The photo was retrieved from:  https://www.tanikal.com/en/silhouette-woman-looks-window-flying-airplane/

Written by :  PROVISION Media
April is Child Abuse Prevention Month.  During this month, people worldwide recognize the importance of families and communities working together to strengthen and equip families to prevent child abuse and neglect.  While there is no simple reason that could explain why adults or parents abuse children, it is crucial that we recognize it's happening and help those involved to get help.  
 
Some components that lead to child abuse are complex and can be mixed with other issues. Causes of child abuse can include, but are not limited to:
 
·         A history of child abuse or neglect during their own upbringing
·         Substance abuse
·         Physical or mental conditions
·         Lack of parenting skills
·         Financial pressures
·         Job worries
·         Lack of or no support from friends or family
·         Medical issues
·         Low self-esteem or feelings of shame  
 
Four types of child abuse are emotional, physical, sexual, and neglect.  Physical abuse is the deliberate intention to inflict physical pain.  It can include hitting, kicking, burning, biting, or any action that results in physical harm to the child.  Emotional abuse involves the abuser yelling, belittling, cursing, verbal threats, or tactics to make them feel threatened, ashamed, or degraded.  Sexual abuse, also known as molestation, is when an adult uses a child for sexual stimulation. It may involve viewing, showing or touching, indecent exposure of private parts, and pornography. Child neglect is depriving a child of their basic needs, such as healthcare, clothing, food, and housing; as well as meeting their physical, emotional, educational, and safety needs.  
 
Protecting children from any abuse is everyone’s responsibility.  If you are unsure how to get involved, remember the three R’s—Recognize, Respond and Refer.  The first R is to RECOGNIZE.  Seeing flags such as unexplained bruises, a change in behavior, poor hygiene, fear of going home, crying, seeking attention, and depression are a few flags to look for. The second R is to RESPOND.  If a child confides in you, remember the child is scared, so be compassionate and respectful.  Validate how they feel, reassure them that you are there to help and that it was not their fault.  Be clear on the next steps and let them know what to expect. This will help them regain a feeling of control.  The third R is to REFER.  Contact your local child protective services agency or the Police to make a report.  If you are still unsure what to do or where to go, call the Alliance at 699-0272 for help.

Oute mua’i tapu’i le tapu o alo ali’i ma ou taia le tu tafa’itoa aua o lea ua ali’itia fanua. Ua tatou feiloa’i i le magafetau soifua i le alofa ma le agalelei o le Atua ma e mua ai la le fa’asao ia manuvao ma momoli lapalapa o malo e sulaina ai le alofa tunoa o le tatou Tapa’au Sili i le lagi. O mamalu ma faigata o lenei aso o le a lē toe o’o i ai se upu auā o lea ua mae’a ona paepaeulufanua e le fofoga o le tatou porokalama. Ae tau ia ina ‘ou pa’i i le vai o le tama ma ‘ou fa’atulou i le tatou fa’atasiga, tulou, tulou, tulou lava. E fa’atalofa atu i le Susuga i le Fa’atonu ia Tofaeono ma lona ofisa mamalu, le atunu’u fa’afofoga tapua’i, aemaise le aofia ua fa’atasi mai i lenei fa’amoemoe. Talofa lava! Malo le soifua manuia ma le lagi e mama i lenei taeao fou o le Alii.
O le fa’asoa i lenei aso e fa’aautu lea i le mataupu ogaoga ua sasao fa’aafi nei, o le Teen Dating Violence/Sauaga i totonu o Faigauo a Tupulaga Talavou. A tatou talanoa i le Teen Dating Violence/Sauaga i totonu o Faigauo a Tupulaga Talavou, ua tatou talanoa i a’afiaga ogaoga o le tino ma le mafaufau e mafua mai i aga a se tagata ua le tau tamali’i, le mafaufau, aemaise o le lē malamalama i le fa’asinomaga o le soifuaga fa’asamoa. Fa’ata’ita’iga: O le fa’ao’o lima o le uo tama i lana uo teine (fasi). O le olaga o Samoa ua uma ona mavaevae ma tu’umatamaga. O lona uiga, e so’o se Samoa moni lava e i ai lona fa’asinomaga e fai ma ta’iala i lona soifuaga.
 O le tasi la o vaega o le fa’asinomaga o le soifua o le tama ma le teine Samoa o le va tapu’ia. O le a le va tapu’ia? O le va tapu’ia o tulaga ia e sa ma tapu ma e lē tatau ona tupu i le va nonofo o tagata. Ae fa’apito augafa se leo i le va tapu’ia i totonu o se faigauo, e pei, o le va nonofo ai o le uo tama ma lana uo teine. I le fa’asamoa e sa ma tapu ona o’o le lima o le tuagane i lona tuafafine ma e fa’apena fo’i le tuafafine i le tuagane. Aisea, auā fo’i o fanau o pelega o aiga ma e puipui malu i ai matua ma aiga. E pei ona pele i le tuagane lona tuafafine, e tatau fo’i ona fa’apena ona pele i le uo tama lana uo teine. O lona uiga, o le va nonofo lea e tatau ona fealoaloa’i - alo mai, alo atu (va fealoa’i).
 E lē toe po mala e i fa’afitauli ua tutupu mai i totonu o si o tatou atunu’u i faigauo a tupulaga talavou. Ua logo tala i le fa’ao’o lima o le uo tama i lana uo teine. O le upu moni, e mafua ona tupu sauaga i totonu o faigauo ona o le lē malamalama o tupulaga talavou i o latou fa’asinomaga ma fa’ataua. Aua ana malamalama i le fa’asinomaga ma fa’ataua le va tapu’ia, e lē tupu le fa’afitauli lea o le teen dating violence/sauaga i totonu o faigauo a tupulaga talavou. Ana malamalama i le fa’asinomaga ma fa’ataua, e iloa tausi le va nonofo i totonu o le faigauo. Tupulaga e, o le va tapu’ia o se tasi lea o vaega taua i le soifuaga fa’aSamoa ma e tatau ona e silafia ma malamalama i ai auā o i tonu lava e maua ai le nofo lelei ma le nofo fealofani. Auā a malamalama i le fa’asinomaga ma le va tapu’ia, e te iloa fo’i fuafua au fa’atinoga ma gaioiga.
Tupulaga, e taua lou taumafai e atina’e se faigauo po’o se mafutaga e soifua maloloina ma lelei (healthy relationship). E fa vaega oute manatu e taua i le atina’eina o se mafutaga/faigauo soifua maloloina ma lelei:
1. Fa’aaloalo (Respect) - E taua le i ai o le fa’aaloalo i totonu o se mafutaga/faigauo. O le fa’aaloalo lena e fetufaa’i ai lagona ma manatu i se aga e tamali’i ma tausa’afia, ma e talia gofie ai fo’i lagona ma ni manatu pe a o’o ina fa’asoa.
2. Trust (Talitonuina) - E taua le talitonuina o le mafutaga. O ina e aveesea ma fa’aitiitia ai le tulaga lea o le masalosalo vale ma le fuā.
3. Honesty (Fa’amaoni) - O le fa’amaoni e mana’omia lea i totonu o se mafutaga aua e mausali ai le mafana ma le talitonuina o le mafutaga/faigauo.
4. Tulaga Tutusa (Equality) - O le fai tutusa o totino o lo’o i totonu o se mafutaga/faigauo e mafua ai ona fiafia ma maua’a le mafutaga. E leai ai foi se musu ma le fiu gofie.
 Oute iloa e tele isi fa’afitauli o lo’o feagai ma le tupulaga talavou ma oute fia fa’asoa atu ai nei vaega e fesoasoani ma fa’atupu manatu i le tupulaga talavou aua le taumafai e fo’ia fa’afitauli o lo’o feagai ma i latou:
1. Tatalo ma Galue: Ia to’aga e tatalo ma galue. Ia saili i le fesoasoani mai le Alii ma galue e saili auala e maua ai le fesoasoani i se mataupu.
2. Tusi lau fa’asinoala (Create a plan) - Ia tusi sau fa’asinoala e fai lea ma ta’iala i au taumafaiga ina ia e ausia lau sini autu.
3. Fesili mo se Fesoasaoni (Ask for Help) - A i ai se fa’afitauli o feagai ma oe, ia aua le matamuli e fesili mo se fesoasoani. O le fesili e maua ai le tali i se mataupu o lo’o feagai ma oe. E taua fo’i le taumafai o i latou o lo’o fesili atu i ai se tagata mo se fesoasoani e aua nei fa’asoaina atu nei fa’afitaulu i se isi tagata auā o ina e mafua ai le faitala ma le feavea’i tala, ma atili ai lava ona mamafa le avega a le tagata o lo’o feagai ma le fa’afitauli.
 4. Talia le Lagolagosua mai o i si tagata (Accept Support): Ia talia le lagolago ma le fesoasoani atu o se tasi ia te oe. O le fesoasoani lena e fa’amāmā avega mo oe a’o feagai ai ma fa’afitauli o le olaga.
Tupulaga e, o ni isi na o fautuaga e tu’u atu i ou autafa e toe timata ai le upega ma toe sasa’a ai le fafao aua le aga’i i luma. Ia fa’ataua lou fa’asinomaga ma ia aloa’ia le va tapu’ia e maua ai le mafutaga lelei ma le soifua maloloina.
Ua uma lenei fa’asoa o fa’aaogaina pea le Gagana Samoa ona oute talitonu e tatau ona fa’ataua, fa’aolaola, ma fa’amuamua le tatou gagana, aua a tatou fa’amuamua i ai, e toe afe mou. O le tatou tiute ma le matafaioi o le puipui ma fa’aolaola le tatou Gagana ma le Aganu’u Samoa, o le tatou palefuiono lena e iloa ai oe ma a’u i le lalolagi.
E momoli atu le fa’afetai i le Mau mo le Fa’amalosia o Aiga/Alliance, Susuga i le Fa’atonu ia Tofaeono ma le ofisa mamalu mo le avanoa ua maua e lenei auauna fa’atauva’a ma le vaivai e avatu ai se lagona ma ni motuga’afa aua lenei fa’amoemoe. Fa’afetai tele lava, o la outou pule lea. O se upu ua pa’ōpapa poo se peau ua laga vale i le gagana, ia malu ave i fale i finagalo ma loto, ma oute matua atu i ina i lo outou titi faitama e magalo ai lo’u vaivai ma le fa’atauva’a.
Ia manuia tele Amerika Samoa le atunu’u pele, le Ofisa o le Alliance, fa’apea le mamalu o le tatou fa’atasiga i le alofa ma le agalelei o le Atua. Soifua ma ia manuia.
Saunoaga a Kiso Skelton
TEEN DATING VIOLENCE AWARENESS VIRTUAL CONFERENCE 2022
Mati 3, 2022