Intersectionality of Recovery and Domestic violence- Dismantling beliefs about recovery and domestic & sexual violence

Written by: Jennifer Tofaeono 
Victims of domestic violence have a high probability of a life with negative outcomes. Victims who live with issues of substance abuse and domestic violence are at heightened risk for adverse outcomes. Substance abuse and domestic violence intersect for both victims and perpetrators of violence, but the role of substance abuse is incredibly unique for victims and perpetrators, that impacts the family differently.

Studies reveal fifty percent of men in batterer intervention programs have substance abuse issues and have been the perpetrator in acts of domestic violence. The definition of domestic violence is any behavior the purpose of which is to gain power and control over a spouse, partner, girl/boyfriend or intimate family member. Abuse is a learned behavior; not caused by anger, mental problems, drugs or alcohol or other common excuses. It is important to note substance use is an indirect effect of domestic violence, and not the cause of violence. For example, substance use by one individual in a relationship may lead to marital arguments that lead to acts of domestic violence. The best part is any negative learned behavior can be unlearned, and recovery is possible.  

September 2020 is National Recovery Month and is observed every September. Substance use treatment and mental health services can promote living a healthy and rewarding life. This year’s theme is “Join the Voices for Recovery: Celebrating Connections” to remind people in recovery and their support systems, that there are many victories to celebrate and things that could have been done differently. These feelings are found in many individuals, and it cannot be done alone. 

Important things to know, drugs do not help with anger. Many substances provide temporary relief from intense emotional feelings by creating sedating, relaxing effects. Long time users begin to develop a resistance, or tolerance that require higher quantities and leads to dependency and addiction. Some ways to manage anger effectively in addiction recovery is to take deep breaths and reassess what’s happening. Collect your feelings and try to separate yourself from the situation. You can Learn new ways to communicate that can help you to express yourself more effectively and improve relationships. Try developing new methods of coping with anger. Get involved with sports, work out, engage in creative writing, or singing a song. Find an activity that will help you to express yourself in a healthy, productive way. Lastly, avoid toxic situations. Certain places, people and situations can trigger an emotional response. Become aware of your triggers and avoid them to help minimize the risk of relapse.

If you or your family need more information regarding recovery, please contact Department of Human Social Services 633-1571, Batter’s Intervention Program, or Tafuna Health Center, Behavioral Health Clinic: 699-6380.